End Emotional Outsourcing

 If you think your over-giving, over-functioning, and over-apologizing habits are just ‘who you are,’ buckle up, because End Emotional Outsourcing is about to blow your mind. Béa Victoria Albina is like a nervous system scientist meets a feminist philosopher meets your no-BS best friend, and she’s here to show you how to unlearn the crap you’ve been taught about being ‘good’ and ‘nice’ – so you can finally be free instead. Get ready to feel simultaneously called out, validated, and deeply relieved—because there’s another way to live, and it starts right here. Read this book, and then read it again, because the way you think about yourself is about to change forever.

 Every so often, someone gives language to an experience we all feel but haven’t been able to name. With clinical expertise and lived experience, Béa Victoria Albina reveals how we outsource our worth, safety, and belonging—leaving us exhausted, resentful, and disconnected. If you've ever felt like your value depends on how much you do for others, this book is more than illuminating—it’s liberating. End Emotional Outsourcing is a revolutionary guide to breaking free from people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency—once and for all.

"End Emotional Outsourcing is the book that finally connects the dots between nervous system science, thought work, and real-world transformation. With razor-sharp insight and deep compassion, Beatriz Victoria Albina doesn’t just explain why so many of us get trapped in cycles of over-giving and self-abandonment—she hands us the somatic tools to break free. This book is a game-changer for anyone ready to reclaim their power, their energy, and their true sense of self."

"Listen, you’re not broken, you’re not ‘too much,’ and you sure as hell don’t need to keep proving your worth to people who wouldn’t notice if you set yourself on fire. End Emotional Outsourcing is the book that will grab you by the shoulders (gently, with love) and shake loose all the BS that’s been keeping you stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, and over-functioning. Béa Albina breaks it down with science, humor, and the kind of wisdom that makes you go, ‘Oh sh*t… that’s me.’ Read this book. Your future self will thank you."

"This is a healing book, beautifully written, and infused with love and wisdom. I highly recommend End Emotional Outsourcing for anyone seeking expert guidance and support for becoming more attuned to your own needs, more capable of self-care, and more authentically present in your life."

 This book had me rethinking every ‘yes’ I’ve ever said when I meant ‘no.’ We all know what that feels like, but finally End Emotional Outsourcing shows us how to stop self-abandonment and lean into self-trust. Béa's teachings are a must-read (and implement!) for recovering people-pleasers.

"For years, I was told I was "too much"—too loud, too opinionated, too ambitious. End Emotional Outsourcing is the book I wish I had when I was struggling to trust myself, stuck in people-pleasing, self-doubt, and perfectionism. Béa unpacks all the ways we’ve been taught to outsource our self-worth and then gives us the tools to break free. With deep nervous system wisdom, somatics, and feminist fire, she shows us that our worth has never been up for debate. If you’re ready to stop playing small, stand fully in your power, and take up space—joyfully, unapologetically, and on your own damn terms—this book is your permission slip."

"Beatriz Victoria Albina offers a thought-provoking challenge to conventional discussions on codependency, shifting the focus from 'fixing' ourselves to understanding how our sociopolitical context shapes Emotional Outsourcing. While its approach is unconventional, it provides a refreshing perspective on breaking free from entrenched patterns and restoring a crucial sense of agency in readers."

"End Emotional Outsourcing is the compassionate, science-backed guide we’ve been waiting for. Béa Victoria Albina masterfully unpacks the roots of codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing—helping readers not just understand these patterns, but break free from them. With a powerful blend of nervous system science, somatic healing, and feminist insight, this book is a game-changer for anyone ready to reclaim their time, energy, and self-worth."

"End Emotional Outsourcing takes an eye-opening and nuanced look at codependency through a feminist lens, allowing us to see both the systems and science at play. Beatriz, through her highly informed and compassionate perspective, shows us why we struggle with perfectionism, people-pleasing, boundaries, and self-abandonment while also giving us the tools to heal. This is a must-read for women everywhere!"

"This book is a wake-up call. If you’re exhausted from bending over backward for everyone but yourself, sick of being the 'reliable one' while your own needs go unmet, and done with seeking validation outside of yourself, End Emotional Outsourcing will shake you out of that cycle. Beatriz Victoria Albina doesn’t sugarcoat the truth, she exposes the systems that keep you stuck in codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, then hands you the tools to break free. No more waiting for permission to take up space. No more settling for breadcrumbs. If you’re ready to reclaim your power, set boundaries without apology, and stop outsourcing your self-worth, read this book. Now."

"Beatriz Victoria Albina’s warmth, wisdom and care shine through this timely, essential book that will help you understand your persistent co-dependency and people-pleasing tendencies. Emotional Outsourcing is a must-read for those who feel depleted by living in a society that expects women to bear their burdens silently and indefinitely. Reclaim your energy, time and emotional well-being, once and for all! Béa Albina will show you how."

 "End Emotional Outsourcing by Beatriz Victoria Albina weaves together cutting-edge neuroscience and somatic healing to deliver a book that doesn’t just tell you to set boundaries or ‘love yourself’—it shows you how, step by step, and explains why it’s felt so hard in the first place.
As a clinical neuropsychologist, I’m particularly struck by how Béa translates the science of the nervous system into accessible tools for healing. Her concept of Emotional Outsourcing gives language to the invisible burdens so many carry—especially those socialized to prioritize others over themselves.
This is the book to hand anyone struggling with codependency, perfectionism, or people-pleasing. Béa is a gifted practitioner and a brilliant guide, and End Emotional Outsourcing will help many reclaim their time, energy, and inherent worth."

 As a trauma-informed grief therapist, I see the sticky residue left over from years of endless people pleasing, anxious perfectionism, and unconscious self-abandonment-- the relentless need to be all things to all people so they will love and value us. It can be such a treacherous path to traverse when we just simply want to have a true sense of "belonging". Backed by extensive research and science, as well as hands-on tools to work with your nervous system, End Emotional Outsourcing will challenge you to look deeper at your life-long patterns and learn to finally start choosing you first.

"True healing comes from understanding life’s impact on your mind, body, and spirit. Getting to the root of our people pleasing boundary bending tendencies, Bea Victoria Albina expertly weaves together how capitalism and systemic oppression have caused too many of us to abandon ourselves. In End Emotional Outsourcing she takes you on the much needed journey of healing your nervous system, reclaiming yourself, your power, and ability to hold true to your most important relationship… the one with yourself."

"End Emotional Outsourcing is the kind of book that doesn’t just sit on your shelf, it sits on your altar. Béa wrote this book with her hands in the soil of lived experience, and her heart tuned to the quiet frequency of truth. This is not just a guide, it’s a mirror, a map, a call to come home.
In a world that profits off our abandoning of self, Béa dares to name the systems, the shame, and the survival strategies that keep us outsourcing our worth. With deep compassion and crystal sharp clarity, she teaches us how to re-inhabit ourselves, body, and mind, one breath at a time. She offers us more than information, she offers integration.
If you’ve ever felt like you've let your life center around the needs of others, this book is your invitation to return home. It’s science, it’s soul work, and it’s revolution, all braided into one sacred thread.
I didn’t just read this book, I remembered myself in it."